You’ve seen the memes and single women voicing their frustrations on many platforms, but what exactly is a Fuckboy? These guys just want to get laid, folks. There are multiple definitions floating around the internet, but I honestly feel there are defined categories and I’ve fallen victim to all throughout my dating history.
What about Fuckgirls? Let me laugh out loud for a moment… All a woman has to throw out into the world is that they have a vagina and want to bang. No deception necessary. I’m sure there are situations where women lead guys on for other reasons, but typically not for sex. (Reminded: Yes, there are times we ladies utilize a dude’s… umm… certain skills without wanting to date them, so we CAN be guilty as well.)
Haven’t had to experience the Fuckboy epidemic? Lucky you, but maybe this will help enlighten you about the weird dynamics us single ladies are facing. To all my gals lookin’ for love, here are some typical characteristics of the different types of Fuckboys.
The Professional
Aw yes, my favorite of the 3 types and likely because these dudes are HONEST. I’ll start with this, if a guy tells you he just wants to fuck you, believe him. They are not seeking a relationship in any way shape or form and will let you know. These aren’t the losers on Tinder who don’t know how to convince a chick that sex is great idea with a stranger. These ones have a way with women and know exactly who to target for sexual encounters.
Most of the hilarious memes related to the Fuckboy dynamics are related to this category (consider following IG: your_fuckboy or thetastelessgentleman for good ones). Known for their player nature and great sex, these guys know how to get a girl into bed and keep her there until they are bored. They may or may not be kinky and they may or may not act like an asshole. Each person is different, but they definitely know how to keep a gal interested. They get off on being desired.
So, if that’s the case, are they actually getting laid? Absolutely they are. By whom? Women with “daddy issues”, those who think they can change him and of course, ladies who are also just DTF (down to fornicate). If it didn’t work, they wouldn’t do it, but keep in mind these guys are pretty smooth and have some pretty solid “Big Dick Energy” (Confidence).
Warning: These guys don’t use condoms. I haven’t met one who does, to be completely honest. I’m friends with a few dudes who live this life and they look at me like I’ve lost my mind when I ask. I’ve had responses of “That’s what Plan B is for…”, “My pull out game is strong…” and “Most diseases are cured with a pill…” Legit, some will not even bother to hook up if a condom is a non-negotiable for you.
Still though, I have to appreciate their honesty. Being upfront about their needs and intentions is a big check mark in my books. You do you, babe. Ladies though, do NOT catch the feels and understand 100% that you are in a temporary situation. Just have fun or just don’t bother. They are not emotionally connected to you and have no problem cutting you off the roster.
The Liar
Ever have someone say whatever they can to get into your pants? These guys are just the ultimate douchebags and typically prey on the young, vulnerable or inexperienced daters. They do not directly state what their goal is, but don’t exactly take you on dates either. These are the “Netflix and Chill” or “Let’s Hang Out” dudes.
Most times they keep putting off plans of a “date”, so after you’ve invested texting time with the person, you finally say yes to them coming over to visit at your place. See what they did there? Other times they wait until you are a little drunk and find their way to take advantage of your less than brilliant decision making. Maybe he DOES actually take you out on a decent date, but then immediately tries to weasel his way to your place with every intention to never take you outside of your bedroom again.
My biggest pet peeve of these bros though is an agreed upon FWB sitch and they peace out after one round. Like, “Fuck You.” Chase over. Out.
Some people have the radar to scope out these boys, but like I said, it’s not strong and experienced women these guys are going for. I mean sometimes they consider that a “challenge accepted” moment like Barney from How I Met Your Mother, so don’t be ashamed if you fall victim to their antics. They will do and say what they have to because they want to win the chase. The collateral damage? Feeling like a complete idiot for sleeping with the womanizer.
The Gentleman
Goal: Treat a woman wonderfully, but avoid the “what are we” conversation at all costs. Ever think you were dating someone because they acted as though they were pursuing a relationship? Later you are told that you were wrong and hear the exclamation of “I thought we were on the same page.” You get upset because you are confused and disappointed. You’ve now triggered the, “I’ve treated you well this whole time; I don’t know why you are being like this. Sorry if I gave that impression…”
Welcome to being their stand in girlfriend until they meet the actual woman of their dreams. Why are they like this? They like the attention, the sex and could be experiencing loneliness. There is the possibility that they enjoy having someone special in their life, but not interested in the commitment. They know you are a catch, but quite willing to toss you back in the pond because you don’t match the criteria of what they are looking for.
Listen, I have learned recently that “trusting my gut” does not always work in modern dating. Please refer to my post Asking Intentions to avoid wasting your precious time. This version of Fuckboy is the most deceiving and hurtful of all, in my opinion. At least give a girl fully informed consent to only hook up, so she doesn’t say no to other opportunities that come up for love.
So ladies stay woke and dudes, well, honesty is a better moral policy. At the end of the day the world is full of all types and it’s important to assess situations logically and not emotionally (or with your genitals).
As always stay safe and have fun!
A Page from Paige 